I love Seinfeld. There is much great truth to live by in that show. In one of my favorite episodes, George Costanzia decides that since all the decisions he has made in life to this point haven’t brought him success he is going to start doing the opposite of what his natural instincts tell him to do. He sits down next to a beautiful woman in the coffee shop and tells her that he is out of work and living with his parents rather than the architect fabrication he usually resorts to. It works.
Sometimes I think I should adopt the opposite principal and see where it gets me. If what I have been doing isn’t working it might be worth a try. For instance, if restrictive diets don’t work, I might try actually enjoying food or taking a cooking class. If gym memberships and treadmills don’t work, I could try going dancing or joining a soccer league. If shame and guilt have been my primary motivators, I could try nurturing and caring for myself. Instead of hiding out, procrastinating and fearing another failure, I could throw myself into the storm and see where the winds take me.
Was it Einstein who said, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”? It’s true whoever said it. This month I’m going to take a look at some of the failures of the past and try applying the opposite principal. Maybe it’ll work as well for me as it did for George.